Women Worriers

Humans have enough problems to worry about without stressing about the things that cannot be changed.

Listen to any older person like a mother-in-law or aunt who constantly comments and complains about the weather. It is always too hot or too cold and they are never comfortable with nature. The only effect of their complaints will be to cause a stormy mood for the listener while the wind continues to blow.

Motivational speakers encourage positive thinking and stress that we should focus on the controllable aspect of our lives that we can improve such as financial status, moods and interactive skills instead of sweating the small stuff.

Being women, we try to control most things on a daily basis, but we need to accept that certain aspects of our lives are slightly more difficult to control than a screaming child or a moody man. Good news to know that certain things are manageable while the five uncontrollable things (listed below) are impossible to change. The new expression on the radio is the best advice: build a bridge and get over it.

1.   WEATHER

If it is meant to rain on your wedding day, the drops will fall from the sky and the best wedding planner cannot limit the damage if you insisted on a garden ceremony. Weather forecasts are as close as we get to control the climate and even the television reports are inaccurate. Murphy plays a sly role in the weather as it usually rains on Easter weekend (most public holidays and weekends when we make plans to be outdoors) or after a carwash. Weather: we like it or not, the elements will not be instructed or tamed for our benefit.

2.   AGEING

Time stands still for nobody and while it is said that true beauty stands the test of time, we will do our best to avoid wrinkles, sagging and gravity as much as possible. New products and procedures try to stop nature’s clock, but only stall the lines for a few years. Most people dread the effects of losing hair, memory and bone density, but ageing is inevitable. We gain experience and wisdom with every facial crease and worrying about getting older just adds to the wrinkles. My granny vainly refuses to wear spectacles as she complains that it makes her look ninety, but does not realise that squinting will make her eye area look a hundred years old. She should be proud of nearly having a century’s life experience, but instead tries to dye her hair and hide her wrinkles that she can hardly see in the mirror because she is not wearing her spectacles.

3.   THE JONES’

The neighbour who has the financial advantage to buy two fancy cars, a collegue who has the idyllic family life and a friend who has the perfect family will always be part of our life. These successful counterparts are there to remind us to strive for a more balanced life, but they do not deserve to be the target of envy or maliciousness because we feel they do not deserve the promotion that life has awarded them. We cannot judge or change the fact that somebody will always be more prosperous. Remember that for every person who is richer than you, there is another who suffers. Use the Jones family as mentors and seek advice to build a better relationship.

4.   REACTIONS

Working with people is a valuable experience and trying to predict the way another person will react to a situation is almost impossible. Regulating our own behaviour is difficult enough without foreseeing how many people will attend your party or buy a product. Moods, comments and reactions make every person unique and this can be best illustrated when the family that we think we know will surprise us.

5.   PARTNERS (ie. men)

They cannot be changed. Training is possible, taming is achievable and acceptance is our only reaction to certain traits in a partner.

Having read this article, stop frowning (lose the wrinkle between your eyes when looking into the sky), smile (increase the laugh lines that indicate a happy life), laugh at our faults and accept that some things cannot be changed as easily as our underwear. Changing our mind about certain things is easier than worrying.

Personal trainer types

One of my colleagues has a fat-phobia and he hates training large clients as he maintains that they are lazy and eat too much. Needless to say, his client base is very mixed, but he tends to attract businessmen and pretty girls. Not an obese person in sight. It sounds like the ideal combination of clients, but what about the ordinary or overweight people?

My weakness is patience – I have very little and tend to roll my eyes often when other people can see my frustration. My resolution for the year is to be more patient and serene and not get upset when a member does not understand how to perform a lunge with a shoulder press in one combination. Testing my weakness, I have landed some clients who are moody, demanding and difficult, but I am going to push through and grow my character. You may wonder where I am going with this confession, but I spent some time thinking about how my client base encompasses mainly women who want to lose weight. Each personal trainer will target certain types of people, whether it is their intention or not.

MODEL MOULDER - There are always the guys who chat to the pretty girls and enjoy toning their young bodies that are not very faulty to begin with. These sessions are much of a spectator sport as other trainers share comments or compliments while trying to wipe away the drool. There is usually much cleavage or cosmetics or both.

PLYO MANIAC – This is the athlete trainer who schedules clients around their training schedules and tend to train triathletes, runners and cyclists. There is much jumping, balance and core work involved in their routines and the clients can manage high repetitions without breaking too much of a sweat.

GAY GROUPIES – Whether it is the “fag hag” that the pretty boys love training with or the gay personal trainer that makes other homosexuals feel comfortable, there is a definite gravitation towards these trainers.

PROBLEM PEOPLE PULLERS – When watching these sessions, sympathetic looks in the trainer’s eyes communicate silently with their colleague who has to endure moaning and bitching from the client. Objections to doing exercises, complaining about instructions and loud panting can be heard by the clients, but the trainer patiently waits for the exercise to be completed. These clients think they are better qualified than the trainer and it is a wonder they have asked for help at all. One unlucky personal trainer seems to attract the difficult clients.

MAKE OVER EXPERT – This trainer tends to find the fattest, unhealthiest client they can source and change their life and waistline within a few months. The success story is great advertising for the trainer and it enriches the client’s life.

CHAT COACH – This is the personal trainer’s other role as psychologist and listener. The stories of the client are long and drawn out and take more than half the session.  After a few sessions, the client wants to know why they are not seeing results. This is when you mention their skinny cheekbones from all the talking.

CORPORATE COACH – The businessperson who does what they are told with little emotion and complaint. They either are the most dedicated clients (as they are determined not to be a failure) or they always cancel because work takes priority.

MOMMY MOVERS – These women tend to share the same trainer as the referrals are high in this group. Just one good result and all the ladies want to look like that one yummy mummy.

GROUPIES – Teaching group training classes exposes the trainer to a whole different aspect of the membership base. This is the place they pick up clients instead of walking the floor.

Identify yourself in these categories and realize that most clients fall into some type of category. This is an internal top secret document that can never be shared with the client.

Wellness specialists

SPECIALISTS AND REFERRALS

Along with the new supplements, equipment and exercises being invented every day, it seems there are more occupations and qualifications that are being introduced to the sports science field. Along with these specialists, personal trainers need additional qualifications to deal with special populations and know the proper professionals who can assist in this field that seems to be growing by the day.

From childhood to old age, there are different advisors in all forms, but it is quite ironic that they play on balls throughout. From coaches and kinesiologists to physiotherapists, there are many special needs in the general population to prevent injuries, improve performance or mobility. 

Before the birth of a child, the gynaecologist usually approves the type of exercise that the mom-to-be should undertake. All personal trainers should know the basics about pregnancy, even if they do not have a pregnancy qualification because the pregnancy problems (hernia, ruptured muscles and pelvic floor weakness) often remain a problem after the baby weight is reduced. 

The children’s fitness market is full of income generating possibilities as parents are often willing to spend money on their offspring that they would be hesitant to spend on themselves. I’ve had female clients cancel sessions because they would rather use the money for their children’s motor skills development than their own exercise. It even costs money for children to partake in supervised play groups and these classes involve simple tasks that improve co-ordination, motor skills, balance and reactivity. The child kinesiology therapists focus on movement patterns as children develop to prevent injuries and imbalances later in life. Once a child starts playing sport, the coaches may refer their good athletes to personal trainers, pilates instructors and specialist coaches, but this is seasonal.

When an injury sets in, the course of action is usually decided by the type of injury and the severity, but the opinion of the personal trainer is often relied upon. While we are not equipped to deal with serious injuries, we can refer to a medical professional. There is much debate between biokineticists (rehabilitating injuries through stretching, muscle activation and exercise), physiotherapists (rehabilitating injuries through manipulation and massage), chiropractors (rehabilitating injuries through manipulation of the spine and correcting alignment) and sports doctors (using postural assessment,

There are also professionals who work on specific body parts. A podiatrist works with feet, while an orthotist can build inners for the shoe and focus on gait correction.

When we examine an injury, it is critical to employ a wellness approach and focus on the physical and the psychological and recommend the services of a massage therapist, psychologist, body stress release practitioner, wellness coach or councilor. Each specialist has a different type of qualification and will appeal to a certain type of person.

Holiday hideways OverBerg

HOLIDAY HIDEAWAYS ALONG THE OVERBERG

When the hussle of the big city gets too much, there are many places that are less than two hours from Cape Town. Take a drive over the mountain pass, away from traffic and crowds and experience the scenery of a lovely drive and a quiet destination.

Hermanus is popular among tourists and it is not the average quiet seaside village as many businesses and industries resemble city living, but the beaches and small guesthouses offer privacy and ocean views that will drown the noise of the town. There are also lovely places on either side of Hermanus and the best part about getting there is the drive itself.

When leaving Cape Town on the N2highway and climbing up Sir Lowry’s Pass, it is like going into another world of farms, quaint towns and tree-lined roads. Stopping at Grabouw’s farm stall is always a good experience and it is the first indicator that a holiday or road trip is about to begin. The smell of the fresh bread and the crisp fresh fruit is enough to relax the most stressful person. There are lovely walks and mountain bike trails in this area and the farms of Elgin are an adventure to explore. There are apple factories to visit and farm stalls en route to please a hungry traveler. Camping along the Overberg coast is very popular and the towns of Kleinmond, Hangklip, Hermanus and Betty’s Bay are always busy over the festive season when families celebrate Christmas at the sea. Waking up to the roar of the ocean and ending each day with a beer and braai is the best way to end a busy year for South Africans. In Kleinmond, the Kogelberg Biosphere Reserve has more than 1600 species of fynbos and a large indigenous forest to explore. The drive from Cape Town along the R44 is known as the Whale Route and it is a scenic drive that winds along the coast. Whale watching and fishing is very popular.

Onrus has a popular caravan park and many people have invested in holiday property near the ocean. There are houses to rent for week or two to get away from the world or bed and breakfast establishments will spoil the visitors. Aside from the coffee shops with homemade cakes and delicacies, there are small museums and other tourist attractions. Each town has something different to offer and exploration is enjoyable when driving through.

If camping and self catering is too primitive, then a few nights at the Arabella Golf Course will pamper the weary traveler. Bordering the largest natural lagoon in South Africa, the views are amazing and the luxury is unrivalled. There is a great restaurant, trendy bar and beauty salon to suit every need.

On the way past Hermanus, there are many little shops and places of interest and there is more to see on the other side of this town that is known for the Whale Festival. Driving along the Overberg is eventful and there is much to amuse the entire family.